What men want- what women want ?

  - Anchita Thiagarajan     

This is an ongoing debate still in the 21^st century. No women know what men really want and no man knows what women really want. One main difference that many researchers have been able to jot up is the difference between how both the parties view sex. This is a sincere effort to jot down some other realms of what they want.

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2.      MEN WANT ACTION- WOMEN WANT COMMUNICATION.

Men are usually more inclined towards satisfaction when they take a decision and act upon it to make it successful whereas women are more satisfied to know that their partners happy and content with the decision that was made by her. This certainty is not based on the decision or the ramification of the decision, their certainty is about what people think of their decision. This is why the employees and higher-order staffs in a company run by women are happier and feel their voices are being heard that the company run by males.

Asking her to make a decision is like asking him to talk without making conclusions.

 

3.      MEN WANT MARRIAGE- WOMEN WANT LIVE IN.

In this 21^st century, where women want to accomplish and want to make herself a name and not inherit her husband’s name, marriage as such is a concept which means she will be tied down to put on an apron and make an apple pie for dinner. This mis concept has risen from the teachings that we have been getting since childhood about how marriage means you have to devote all your time in household chores and making sure that Your in-laws are happy.

But for men, marriage is a concept inn which he will have a beautiful woman who is dependent on him who he should provide to take care of for the rest of his life.

I mean look at ross guys, it’s a goddamn record.

 

4.      MEN WANT UNDERSTANDING- WOMEN WANT LOVE.

Typically in a relationship, men want their partner to understand what they want to say without the need to say, like in a very boring party, if your man looks at you from across the room, it doesn’t mean that he is adoring you for that past hour you spent getting ready, that is his way of crying for help and asking you to  go to home.

Women want the need to be loved, and seen. Basically, she just wants you to make sure that you are present and there for her every then and there. Love for her is not making grand gestures (even though I am not saying we don’t like it), but love for her is more of helping her with dishes after dinner, or giving her chocolate during her chums. The only couple who could achieve this was Rahul- Anjali and Raj- Simran.

 

5.      WOMEN GIVE LOVE- MEN GIVE UNDERSTANDING.

Now this unbalance is the result of the famous Newton third law “you get what you give” since women want love, they give love to their husbands by making their favorite dish, and cleaning his room and cupboard. Men hence try to understand her which is humanly impossible, and so women think that she is putting in all the efforts and he is not even trying. And the war begins.

MEN WANT SEX- WOMEN WAN LOVE 

For men one-night stands and friends with benefits are an easy approachable mode of relations than being “tied up” since it gives them the freedom to explore themselves in the sexual realm and be casual at the same time. But for women it's complex. Even though we do wish that it was easier for us to not be emotionally attached to the partner, we do get easily emotionally attached to them, and it is an inevitable part of women’s sex life. Like, come on, just look at the king of pick up lines, joey.

But on the contrary, studies show that women are more likely to have extramarital affairs or use sex toys than men, as even though they love their husbands to the moon but if their sexual needs are not to be satisfied, they will take other means to satisfy themselves.

 

6.      WOMEN WANT EQUALITY- MEN WANT EQUALITY.

Finally, something that both want. Men want equality, and to be financially co-dependent with his other half, whereas women want chore co-dependence with him. And this is the one thing that men have finally understood, if he wants her paycheque, then he is ready to divide the chores.