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What and why sex education ?

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- Anchita Thiagarajan and Chunmithra C.V With the increase in discussion about sex among the youth, we often see that the only and primary form of sex knowledge that they receive is through the adult film industry - porn. And the major issue with this is that porn does not show the nuances of the sex and the psychological, social and physiological long term effects of sexual intercourse of any form. It does not show consent of any form nor does it show how it actually happens. Porn is basically an Alice in wonderland version of sex and life. You know you can't pay for taxis via sex, but still, it’s on the internet. We do understand that proper and correct information of sex, sexuality, conception and contraception is needed, where we lack is to bridge the differences between our generation and the older generation and make them understand the importance of sex ed.  What is sex education? Sex education is defined as a broad program that aims to build a strong foundation for lifelong...

You aren't actually helping!

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  - Granthika Manirao  “Sit like a Lady, don’t cross your legs;   Show some skin, what a slut;   Put on some makeup, you look fake;   Get skinny, don’t you ever eat?   You’re so fat, stop eating   Why does your hair look like that?   Why do you have body hair?   Why don’t you do something about your skin?   Why aren’t you married yet?   Having a child is what defines your life as a woman”   These kinds of questions and opinions sound annoying, don’t they? Imagine having to face these and even more on a daily basis, oh wait, you don’t have to imagine, this is reality, in lives of women on a daily basis. The worst part about it is that people who ask these questions justify it by simply saying “I was just trying to help because I care”.   The “I just wanted to help”, is one of the most commonly used phrases, as an excuse for acting like a jerk to a person. Let’s take the basic example of a girl, who j...

How is rape related to caste dominance ?

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- Anchita Thiagarajan Chunmithra CV In a village 200 km away from Delhi, a 19-year-old girl was raped and injured badly, she was admitted in the village hospital. On 28 September she was taken to the Safdarjung hospital in Delhi, on the following day she died. This stirred the media a while.  A lot of other cases such as Badhoi, Blamapur, and jiyanpur cases also came front. People demanded capital punishment of the rapists, there were protests, debates held on the incompetence of the government officials, and then all went silent. And yes, the police and the law enforcement system is ineffective; I do not contradict that, but we also have to acknowledge the same cycle that is being continued whenever any such case is brought forward. Now I am not here telling that this should not be done, she is a warrior and we have to respect her soul in any way possible and make sure the convicted gets punished.  But among all the anger, and rage we forget to notice how the government's mai...

Teenage Limbo

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-G ranthika Manirao, Nishika Chowdhary, Siddharth Shankar Singh  Teenage, wonderful and stress-free phase of life, said no one ever ! (Except our parents, they’re so darn optimistic). This stage of life is incredibly messy and confusing for teens as well as for the people around those teens. To cite an example, almost every teen’s favourite phrase is “No one understands me”,  but when someone tries to have a conversation, the favourite phrase changes to “I need my SPACE”. This behaviour is acknowledged in the name of hormones or mood swings, but the real reason behind it is ignored. It is in our nature to express what we feel but sometimes people don’t listen to us and don’t pay attention. This pent-up need for self-expression takes the form of outbursts like the aforementioned. People like our elders always feel that they’ve also been in this stage and not faced any of this, so to them, it always seems like we are overreacting. They never understand that that was their time a...

Homosexuality and Indian Army

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Discrimination though being an illegal activity in India as of 1950, it is still being practised prevalently in hindsight. Be it towards sex, caste, race religion or sexual orientation, people are not shy to call out them in derogatory terms or even threaten them and harass them in all and every way possible. The discrimination faced by females in workplaces i s a whole different topic which roots from a very young age. But here we are going to discuss a much less discussed topic by other bloggers and newspapers. Discrimination faced by LGBTQ+ members in workplaces.  Be it some other person sex life, or just the way one dresses, us Indian do not shy away from judging people as soon as we lay our eyes upon them. We are constantly thought to put people into categories in our minds and talk to each one of them differently as of how you have placed them in the category. Knowingly or unknowingly, we do discriminate among people and it is mostly the ones who do it knowingly and want to h...

Why did Tik-Tok feel like a queer space?

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Tik - Tok initially wasn't my thing, or probably it just wasn't there for long enough for me to discover in it. Being conditioned that Tik-Tok basically is a place to find cringe content, I made a pact with my brother to never download it ever.  Probably I just didn't see it with a different lens perhaps. Even though I never downloaded Tik- Tok I found the majority of its content on Instagram. The more of these videos that I watched, the more it made sense to me, the subject of these videos were not random or unnecessary (though a few were). The stealth of Tik-Tok creators have managed to capitalise on the open fields of love and desire. Being in India, talking openly about love and desire did pave a way for its downfall, but it also represented the queer and LGBTQ+ community largely. From men being disguised as women, wearing makeup and women wearing football shorts and oversized T-shirts, what these content creators did for fun actually, in fact, represented the normal da...

Will Gender Equality Help us?

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  In 1915, on the eve of one of the great suffrage demonstrations down the fifth avenue in NYC, a writer in New York, wrote an article in a magazine, and the title of the article was; “Feminism for Men”. The first line of the article was: “feminism for the first time will make it possible for men to be free”. Now when we talk about gender equality, there is a common misconception that it means voicing females, helping females, and giving them equality. Well, on the periphery, they got it half right. Gender equality is giving voice for men too, helping them too, and giving them equality too. Gender equality is good for countries as well. It turns out, most of the studies indicated that the countries that are the most gender-equal contains more happier population. Ok, philosophical reason aside. There is an indication by the catalyst and other research organization that gender equality results in better work performances in companies, which in turn increases the revenue of these co...